Saturday, July 6, 2013

The Secret Lives of Christian Women: I am NOT Attracted to my husband anymore

I always look forward to linking up throughout the week!

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This week we are discussing something I have never heard my Christian friends talk about so I knew it was time to tackle it. We always hear about husbands who are no longer attracted to their wives due to weight gain from a baby, thyroid disease or other health issues. What about wives who are tired of staring or worrying about an unhealthy husband? That is a question not commonly answered.
Upon researching for hours on dealing with a spouse you are no longer attracted too, I was unable to find solid research to use in this post. Most of the information read, did suggest that more women deal with this problem than we think and feel trapped and unhappy. As Christian women, we said "For better or worse," and made a conscious decision to love and honor our spouses but with lack of attraction it, can be challenging to both love and honor.
There is no easy solution but with God all things are possible! Here are (3) three suggestions to help women who are facing this challenge.

 Pray Before Approaching Your Husband

Michal (David's wife), approached David in her frustration before praying first and her life was never the same.  The funny thing is that 1 Samuel 18:20 says that Michal loved David, which is the only place where a woman's love for a man is recorded in the Bible.

 Practice what you preach!

I don't know about your husband, but if I gently mention something that needs improving in his life, he quickly points out things I need to change or work on. Before we can approach our husbands our losing weight, taking more baths etc. Think of what he will say about you.

 Remember Why You Said, "I Do"

Reminisce on how you met, why you were attracted to him in the first place, and what makes him a good husband, father, son, and friend. Doing this will bring a smile to your face.

Word of Caution: If you husband is verbally and physically abuse, this may cause your lack of attraction, and the information provided above may not be enough to fix the problem in your marriage. Please seek professional help.

 If you have other tips, please feel free to share. I look forward to connecting this week!


  1. Oh Delora, thank you so much for tackling a topic that's usually not talked about. I pray this reaches the women that really need to read this! :)

    Thanks for sharing your heart with us!

    1. Thanks so much for stopping by Kelsey. It was a topic that I know some of struggling with so I had to tackle it. I look forward to staying connected.

  2. The picture made me laugh out loud. Such a great post with truth for all of us wives to go after the best marriage imaginable.

    Posted our momma notes tonight. A day late. But it works. So hoping you can come and join. Share your words. your encouragement. your anything mom.

    Just moms. Sharing our notes. Creating a melody.

  3. Hi Sarah, thanks so much for stopping by I will stop by momma notes later today.