Monday, May 20, 2013

Secret Life of Christian Women: Frustrated being a Wife and Mom

Hi Link up friends!

When I started writing this series on “The Secret Life of Christian Women,” I promised to always be honest so here goes:

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I have been married for almost 7 years with a 3 year old son and currently I feel overworked, weary, fatigued, numb and aggravated. Can you relate?  I know you can. Daily, I talk to God asking for wisdom and a way to better cope with the feels I’ve had for many years now. In my daily quiet time I ask:

  • 1.       Did I marry the wrong man?
  • 2.       Am I not made to be a wife and mom?
  • 3.       Where did I go wrong?
Daily, tears fill my eyes as I try to answer these questions and for a while I felt like God never gave me an answer, until today!

This morning I went for my daily run and accidentally hit shuffle on my phone (well, it wasn’t an accident in God’s eyes). Steven Curtis Chapman’s song, “his strength is perfect,” began to play and for the first time in a long time I heard God’s voice in that song taken from 2 Corinthians 12:9.

“I can do all things through Christ who gives me strength but sometimes I wonder what he can do through me, no great success to show, no glory on my own, yet in my weakness he is there to let me know…..His strength is perfect, when our strength is gone. He’ll carry us, when we can’t carry on, raise in his power the weak becomes strong, his strength is perfect, his strength is perfect.”

The words of that song reminded me that I don’t have to try to do it all on my own and be a super wife or mom. It is time for me to get realign with God and understand “His Strength” not my own is perfect. 

Please listen to this great song and share what you do when these feelings come over you.


  1. I remember so much guilt and just feeling like a failure when my kids were younger, because I wasn't the perfect wife and mother that I always assumed I would be.

    It was a lot harder than I thought it would be and I was a lot more selfish than I thought I was going to be, lol!

    I just remember many trips to the bathroom (the only quiet place in the house) where I'd get down on my knees and beg God to deliver me from myself and to help me be a better wife and mom and help me with my temper.

    Eventually it hit me that I was trying so hard, too hard, and that HE had to do it, not me. I also realized that I was never going to be perfect. Ever. And it was never going to be an overnight process.

    The guilt and failure began to stop being a part of my every day life when I accepted that God had to do it and WOULD do it, and I stopped trying to do it and measure it myself.

    Thanks for linking up today!

  2. Hi! Just popping back to say that the new Making Your Home Sing Monday linky party is live and ready for your posts!